Being a girl can be overwhelming. We may notice things about others we want for ourselves. But at the end of the day, nobody is perfect, and we should not compare ourselves to others.
Everyone is different. Some people have their routine down, while others are still figuring it out, and that is okay. We are still learning how to adapt to having all these new responsibilities in high school, and it’s overwhelming at times. We need to accept that we are not going to be “perfect” and should not compare ourselves to others. If we all did that, we would all be much happier.
One thing I learned is confidence does not grow overnight; it is something you must build up and work on. Confidence is something we are not born with; it’s something we build as we grow and continue to grow even into adulthood. Confidence in one’s self is built steadily over time through small habits, such as the way you talk to yourself, making routines, and consistency. Building a routine for yourself can help your day feel more structured and less chaotic and will naturally breed confidence. Waking up, washing your face, and doing other everyday tasks around the same time, as well eating healthier, and being sure to set goals for yourself, are all simple and effective ways everyone, not just us girls, can become more self confident as individuals.
Self-esteem is not about thinking we are perfect; it’s about understanding that we are not, that no one is, and being happy with who we are. It’s about showing up for yourself on the days you do not feel your best. Some days even something as small as trying a new hairstyle just for fun can change that day’s outlook, while other days just may require leaving your hair natural and choosing comfort instead, which are both valid and beautiful.
Perhaps the biggest thing is how we speak of and to ourselves. This is more powerful and impactful than you may think. If you would not say that to your best friend, then why say it to yourself? Whether it be in academics, athletics, or any other aspect of our lives, positive reassurance and constructive criticism are the tools to use to build ourselves and each other up. If you played badly one day, do not beat yourself up over it. During the next game or practice do not talk down to yourself. Instead try having a positive mindset. Confidence grows when you replace self-criticism with positive self-talk and patience.
